Marriage is an Ordeal

Marriage is not a simple love affair, it's an ordeal, That person is literally your other half.  A love affair isn’t that. That is a relationship of pleasure, and when it gets to be unpleasurable, it’s off.

But a marriage is a life commitment, and a life commitment means the prime concern of your life. If marriage is not the prime concern, you are not married.
" - Joseph Campbell

Christina and Christopher Roush Wedding Photos 

Christina and Christopher Roush Wedding Photos 

When Chris and I were planning our wedding (almost 5 years ago!), we asked one of our favorite college professors to marry us. An incredibly wonderful man in every way and a verdant advocate of the power of love to transform two individuals into something more.

Woven through emails and phone calls about the service and the logistics of the ceremony, he casually and regularly dropped some profound wisdom like this gem:

"It gets back to the basics, as births and marriages are two of the most amazing things that human beings can do; birth being a natural wonder, and marriage being an intentional wonder. I think marriage is one of the greatest things in the world, an act of bravery and trust and hope. Remember, it is not the love that sustains the marriage, but the marriage that sustains the love.- Professor William Shullenberger

Wedding season is upon us and it's all new dresses and dancing and bridal parties and flowers. But let's not forget what a profound choice it is to get married. A choice that should be honored and respected. If you find yourself invited to a wedding and you say to your friends, "I give it a year." for the love of Love DO NOT ATTEND. I don't care how fun the party will be, who the band is, or what Hamptons mansion is the venue. Have some integrity! (Unless of course it is a best friend or family member, in that case do your best.)

And if, (hopefully more often than not) you find yourself in the presence of a couple that have that spark of love between them, that you instantly recognize as true, do not underestimate your power and responsibility as a guest. They are committing to an act of bravery and trust and hope that will be an ordeal of a lifetime and they need the full support of your confidence and love to help them through the long, difficult, but wondrous act of making a marriage. 

Sending LOVE


Ilse crawford

Netflix has this wonderful original series called Abstract. It follows the life and work of some extraordinary creatives and designers. I was very moved by the one highlighting Ilse Crawford and her interior design work/philosophy. I've since watched and listened to every interview I have been able to find on her.

This one about water glasses is completely enthralling. (I am not joking). 

What I find most inspiring about her is not her aesthetics, or successful career (both of which are deeply inspired). It is her singular mission to "put the human user at the centre of the experience" and how that infuses everything she does, whether designing the Soho House's interiors or collaborating with Ikea on a collection, or hosting a dinner party. Her integrity is palpable.

This clarity that Ilisa radiates is something that is in all of us. Its particular iteration is unique to who we are and what we are meant to do; our interior manifesto. But how many of us have really taken the time to get clear on what that is?

Our truth wants to be known and expressed through how we live our lives.

And what is so amazing is that this isn't a difficult puzzle to solve. It's not a great mystery. It's our truth and truth is always simple. We need to just sit and listen.

Inspired by this insight I sat with the intention to clarify, what is my singular mission? What is the why behind everything I wish to contribute? A lot came up for me, but to put simply and briefly, I believe in our ability to create a life of purpose, beauty and fulfillment by tapping into our own personal power. and I want to help as many people as possible be in touch with what that is within them. Whether through my art or at New Moon gatherings, or even in a conversation at the playground. In subtle ways this has been a thread guiding me all along. But now I have articulated a clarity for myself that can lead my actions instead of a vague inclination that meanders.

We all could benefit from taking some time, looking around and thinking, what is it that I stand for? What do I want to create? How do I want to make people feel? What matters to me?  We only have this one life, as far as we know, and through our actions we have the ability to be of service in profound ways. Having clarity allows you to make more of a mark, more of an impact and it keeps you along a path that you know will bring fulfillment and joy instead of being pulled in many different directions.

I encourage you to take some time this weekend asking these questions and listening as your inner wisdom fills you in on what you might have been missing. I would love to hear your insights! 

Sending love and creative magic your way!


Holiday Gift Guide and the Makers Behind Them

This past weekend I visited the Echo Park Craft Fair, a wildly inspired, beautifully curated group of local artists and artisans. I awkwardly asked them to share a piece of wisdom with me to share with you today. It was remarkable how easily they were able to do it on the spot!

The fashion advice from Haley of Marais USA at the end is👌 

See below for my gift guide from all the makers in the video. Truly excellent. 

In order of appearance...

Linda Hsiao of Knot Work LA:

I was pretty obsessed with these when I saw them, also these cups would make any cocktail that much better...

Elena Chien of See Real Flowers:

All of her jewelry is just the perfect mix of nature meets magic meets beauty...this necklacerocked my world and you can put a special note in it for the person you love to discover...

Hall Newbegin of Juniper Ridge:

Mountain lodge. Fireplace. Forest campground...Yes PLEASE!

Saehee Cho of Soo N


Haley Boyd of Marais USA blue, red & rose, Thank you very much! 

Peace, Love Love Love & Creativity!