“Marriage is not a simple love affair, it's an ordeal, That person is literally your other half. A love affair isn’t that. That is a relationship of pleasure, and when it gets to be unpleasurable, it’s off.
But a marriage is a life commitment, and a life commitment means the prime concern of your life. If marriage is not the prime concern, you are not married." - Joseph Campbell
When Chris and I were planning our wedding (almost 5 years ago!), we asked one of our favorite college professors to marry us. An incredibly wonderful man in every way and a verdant advocate of the power of love to transform two individuals into something more.
Woven through emails and phone calls about the service and the logistics of the ceremony, he casually and regularly dropped some profound wisdom like this gem:
"It gets back to the basics, as births and marriages are two of the most amazing things that human beings can do; birth being a natural wonder, and marriage being an intentional wonder. I think marriage is one of the greatest things in the world, an act of bravery and trust and hope. Remember, it is not the love that sustains the marriage, but the marriage that sustains the love." - Professor William Shullenberger
Wedding season is upon us and it's all new dresses and dancing and bridal parties and flowers. But let's not forget what a profound choice it is to get married. A choice that should be honored and respected. If you find yourself invited to a wedding and you say to your friends, "I give it a year." for the love of Love DO NOT ATTEND. I don't care how fun the party will be, who the band is, or what Hamptons mansion is the venue. Have some integrity! (Unless of course it is a best friend or family member, in that case do your best.)
And if, (hopefully more often than not) you find yourself in the presence of a couple that have that spark of love between them, that you instantly recognize as true, do not underestimate your power and responsibility as a guest. They are committing to an act of bravery and trust and hope that will be an ordeal of a lifetime and they need the full support of your confidence and love to help them through the long, difficult, but wondrous act of making a marriage.